In today’s society, all or most of us are involved in a very romantic relationship with our partners and we also have our share of arguments, fights, disagreements, and even difficult conversations. But, we also have an equal amount of love, trustworthiness, compassion, and faith for our partners as well.
So, having a difficult conversation with your partner at any point during the relationship depends on your behavior and your responses in such a tough situation. Because sometimes, it is not as easy as it seems to talk it out with your partner.
Moreover, the above-mentioned factors also determine what turn will our relationship take and what will be its health in the future.
Writes therapist Sadaf Siddiqi on having difficult conversations with your partner,
Having tough conversations in a respectful manner can be overwhelming if this behavior wasn’t modeled on you growing up, and you didn’t have chances to observe it.
Some important tips on how to have a difficult conversation with your partner
Let’s look at some of the tips that Siddiqi shares when you are about to have a difficult conversation with your partner.
Mental Preparation is Essential
Before you start off the conversation, make sure that you yourself are mentally up for it. Organize your thoughts and responses in your head beforehand so that you don’t freak out when the time comes.
Make sure to ask your partner if they are ready for the conversation
Don’t assume that your partner is always ready to have a difficult conversation with you anytime. Make sure you ask for your partner’s permission and judge his/her mood for the conversation. If they are also ready mentally for it, then only start the conversation.
Don’t add introductions to the conversation; directly jump to the main issue
Adding introductions to your conversation may not seem right at all and divert the subject altogether. Instead, directly focus on the topic that is bothering you and speak it out immediately with your partner.
Try to be more objective in your approach to the conversation
An objective approach is the best path to take in a difficult conversation. This way we can state our facts, feelings, and the mutual solution that we will take after the conversation ends.
Get a hold of your emotions during this important conversation
Do not get emotional when talking it out with your partner because a rash reaction or an emotional outburst will make the situation worse for both of you. Try to keep your emotions under check.
Thus, these are some of the ways in which we can have that all-important conversation with our partner and let him/her know what’s bothering us.
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